Is Collaborative Divorce Right for You?
Collaborative Divorce can be an excellent option if both you and your partner are willing to work together with honesty and respect.
You don't have to be amicable or already in agreement about your issues. Collaborative Divorce can work well for couples with high levels of conflict. So, even if you don't think of yourselves as "collaborative," you can achieve a positive outcome with Collaborative Divorce—as long as you're willing to engage in the process in good faith.
Instead of relying on your lawyers to negotiate, and a judge to make decisions, you and your partner must be willing to resolve your issues together with the support of your Collaborative Team.
Without your participation and commitment, the Collaborative approach won't work.
As long as you have this commitment, Collaborative Divorce works for:
- Same-sex and opposite-sex couples
- Legally married and unmarried (common-law) couples
- Couples with and without children
- All ethnicities
- All religions
So, is Collaborative Divorce right for you? To help you decide, ask yourself these questions:
- How important is it for you to have a harmonious relationship with your spouse in the future?
- Have you already tried other approaches to resolving your dispute (such as court or mediation) without success?
- Is it important to you and your spouse to model respectful behavior for your children?
- What are your goals for your children through the separation?
- Do you want a Child Specialist to help give your children a voice in the separation process?
- How important is it for you to feel a sense of control in the process and outcome?
See if some of the following statements are true for you. If they are, Collaborative Divorce could be an effective option for you:
- You and your spouse are willing to work with your Collaborative Professionals.
- You have so much conflict that it's hard to imagine how you could reach agreement.
- You value an open process, with both of you disclosing all relevant information.
- You want a civilized, respectful resolution of the issues.
- You're discouraged from trying to resolve your disputes in ways that haven't worked (such as court).
- You see the value in getting guidance and support for your emotions, finances, co-parenting and children.
- You're willing to consider creative solutions to your family's problems.
- You would rather sort problems out yourselves, with the help of a skilled team, than have a judge make your decisions.