Why use Collaborative Divorce when most non-Collaborative divorces are settled out of court?
Even though about 90% of all non-Collaborative family law cases are settled out of court, the process is still adversarial—and that's very different from Collaborative Divorce
With adversarial divorce:
Your lawyers advocate for you separately, aiming to get you a better deal than your partner or spouse (win-lose).
You and your partner communicate through your lawyers using proposals, counterproposals and ultimatums, rather than talking directly.
Your negotiations are often limited by formulas, statutes, rules of thumb and the threat of litigation.
Many settlements are reached at the last minute, which is stressful and usually expensive.
The adversarial process can create bitterness and anger that lasts for years.
With Collaborative Divorce:
Your lawyers work together, aiming to create the best possible agreement for the whole family (win-win).
You and your partner negotiate directly, with the support of skilled professionals who make sure everyone's needs are taken into account.
You and your partner control the process, not court-based rules and schedules.
Emotional support from Divorce Coaches can lower both stress and cost by helping you move past conflict to an agreement.
The Collaborative process can heal bitterness, resolve anger and create a plan for a positive future.
Both Collaborative and non-Collaborative divorce generally leads to a settlement. It's up to you to choose what will work best for you and your family.